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All I ask of my man is that you:
1. Love God.
2. Love me & love & be a role model for our kids, our families, and our society.
3. Take care of yourself as much as you are able.

But society has taught me that in order for me to GET/KEEP/HAVE a man I must:
1. Dress to show my shape.
2. Have a perfect shape.
3. Be promiscuous or allow you and you only to be.
4. Be subservient & serve you without any reciprocation.
5. Wear things that'll make you like my figure more.
6. Wear things that only you like.
7.  Take jobs that don't threaten you.
8. Wear makeup and heels that make me look more attractive.
9. Change my natural hair into something that is more accepted by society.
10. Hide my strength & my tomboyish nature because it's not feminine enough and it's not attractive.
11. Give you all I have, but don't look for that reciprocated.
12. Cater to & go easy on you because of how society treats you.
13. Believe & support everything you want, even if I don't or I'm not a "good woman who sticks by her man".
14. Know a woman's place.
15. Don't force you to go to church or even mention things you do that aren't morally what I stand for because I'm being "too Christian-like".
16. Tolerate, stick up for, and stand by you even if you hurt me or you do something I wouldn't nor believe in.
17. Not allow my hurt to show too much around you or I'll be labeled over-emotional, needy, or the "Angry Black Woman".
18. Be domesticated and homely.
19. Be presentable & quiet when I'm in the presence of your friends, otherwise it'll seem like I'm a know-it-all and talk to much.
20. Not be super religious when it comes to dating and making love because I must allow you to "try before you're sure you want to buy".
21. Don't be alarmed if you don't want to communicate, but when you do I must be there for you because that's what women do for their man.
22. I can never meet or become too close to your friends because you can't be comfortable in yourself to know that I wouldn't cheat on you with someone you're close with nor do you want them to keep you 100 with me because they'll probably keep you honest and/or let me know if you slip up.
23. Remember that, you're entitled to all I have if you ask me for it, because that's how a woman can keep her man around, however I'm only privy to whatever select things you'd LIKE for me to know or have.
24. Realize that I even if I want kids I can't have them until you want me to have them, not when we BOTH do together.
25. Accept that you're only going to DEAL with me when you WANT to, regardless of how I feel.
26. Remember that faked beauty isn't flawed if it works in our fortune.
27. Accept my self-conscious & low self-esteem view because of these flaws that are now faked for me to get your attention are my problem & my problem exclusively, even if I did it all for you.
28. Remember that you will ALWAYS LOVE it from behind because it gives you more visual stimulation, even if I hate it because it's not as intimate because you can't see my reaction... :-/
29. Remember that you always love head, even if that's never returned. EVER.

I could keep going because I haven't even TOUCHED on the topic of CHILDREN @ ALL!

But, for the sake of the number 3 being my favorite number, I'll stop before I continue the negativity  into the 30s.

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~ A

(PS - I came up with EVERY SINGLE ONE of these just reflecting on my own experience & the experience of some of my friends while sitting in front of this computer tonight for the past 20mins.... Honestly, the difference between sexes based on societal norms in our country are TRUE,  POOR, and SAD! :-(  It's not true of all men, but society definitely hasn't made it equal. Period.